The Truth About Myself and Phyllis Hogan Hickey

Myself and Arlene Phyllis Hogan Hickey. Sorry, about the poor photoshopping of two separate photos together. As a side note, Phyllis had this photo taken specifically for me. I’ve seen many photo’s taken of her since this, but she has never looked happy as she does in this photo.

This blog is my goodbye blog to Phyllis. A friend posted the following meme on her social media page knowing I’d see it as a message that I need to move on.

I never wanted to give up hope, but I feel I’ve done all I can in this lifetime to regain the girl I’ve loved with all my heart. Someone once said, “If you love something, set it free. If it returns to you it’s yours forever. If it doesn’t return it never was yours. I haven’t wanted to believe I wasn’t special to her. I haven’t wanted to believe she never really loved me, but she was only looking for someone to latch onto as a way out. I’m truly sorry she chose to marry Patrick Hickey because he has been an abusive monster and made her life a living hell. Her choice also made my life a living hell in a lot of other ways. I know I’ll never truly get over her, but somethings you just try to not think of as best you can.

This journal I’ve decided to make a reverse order journal. That just means that you will need to scroll down to read the new entries instead of each new entry being at the top of the page. Why am I doing it this way? I don’t know.

27 September 2021

I woke myself up from a dream this morning crying. It was a dream about Phyllis. In the dream certain memories that I had not been able to remember for decades came flooding back to me, and upon awakening the memories just kept coming at me in waves. Trauma once caused all these memories to be blocked and locked away where I had no access to them. Now, trauma once again has allowed these memories to come out of hiding.

My head is spinning right now. This experience is still quite fresh having only awoken less than an hour ago and feeling an urgency to write about this memories before they might disappear again. Anybody who has ever suddenly regained memories they had lost will tell you its a very strange experience and it makes you feel lost. It’s very surreal. Somehow I hope that writing about these memories connected with Phyllis Hogan will help me find myself again. I definitely do not want to spiral into a dark depression where dead seems to be the only way out. I’ve been there before and actually had a near death experience that gave me the strength to live. While I’m thankful for that experience and my survival I cannot allow myself to go down that dark path to the brink of destruction again. People do not heal by keeping trauma bottled up inside. The only way to heal is to talk about your trauma. However, I want to make it clear this is not a cathartic writing. I’ve been in contact with two of Phyllis’ sisters and both have let me know that she doesn’t desire to talk to me. She may not talk to me, but I can talk to her through this website that I know she reads. At least I will be allowed to tell her what she did to me and how she changed my life forever, in some way good and in some ways bad. I know that in writing this I take the chance it will push her away from me forever, but that’s the chance I’ll have to take as she must know how I feel before this life of mine ends.

At this moment I need to step away and take a break, but I will return and write more later, perhaps tomorrow.

28 September 2021 – Well, here I am again. I can report that I had a good sleep last night and all the memories that came flooding back are still with me. I guess I somehow have the fear that the memories may slip back into that hidden place. They have not. I guess this is the new reality for me.

In yesterday’s writing I spoke of death and destruction. Phyllis and I had met as teens in school. Our friendship soon turned to love. Because it was still too soon for me to buy her an engagement ring I have her a larger circle of gold in the form of a bracelet for a Christmas gift. I think we had been dating about 7 months when my mother announced that her and her new husband had decided to move the family to Florida, hundred of miles south of Kentucky. What could we do? We were just 15 and not able to get married yet so we knew we had to ride out a few years till I could return to Kentucky when I turned 18 and take her for my bride. That first year we were distanced from each other we wrote letters everyday. Then one day a letter came from Phyllis that said she didn’t want me anymore.

I tried calling her on the phone and she refused to speak to me. I tried again and again, but she hung up on me and then stopped answering the phone. She was everything that had made my life worth living and now she was gone. I went to the cabinet in the kitchen where my parents kept a lot of pills and I emptied all the bottles into my stomach. My mother came out of her bedroom and saw all the empty bottles on the counter and I ran out the back door of the house with her shouting to my older brother to that I’d taken a lot of pills and to run after me. My heart was so full of pain. We lived near a main road with lots of fast traffic on it so I saw my chance to end it all quickly. I ran out in front of a car, but they managed to slam on their brakes and not hit me. I took off running down the road as my brother had come running after me. I had all this pain that I couldn’t escape and I didn’t know what to do. Was I just going to keep running or what? There was a large tree at the end of the road and I climbed up on it as the police arrived and were trying to talk me down. I’ll cut this story short with saying this was my first ever suicidal thoughts or attempt.

My mother had managed to make contact with Phyllis’ mother and tell her what had happened and let me know that Phyllis wanted me to call her. Apparently, she’d found out I tried to kill myself and so I guess she felt bad about dumping me and she took me back. It all wasn’t so cut and dry, but that was the outcome of our long talk. Some months later my family had arranged a trip up north to see relatives for the winter holidays. I imagine that trip was actually only arranged so I would have time to see Phyllis.

I’ll never forget that day in December when I went to visit Phyllis at her home with my heart in my hand and an engagement ring in my pocket. I really wanted to get things squared away with her and make sure we were still on track. She made me feel like she wasn’t sure she wanted to continue our relationship and I felt very much like a beggar wanting to know what had happened to her and how we could get our relationship back on track.

I remember sitting at the bottom of the stairs that lead up to a finished attic where her bedroom was. We sat there talking for a long time till I felt secure that she really wanted me and we would continue with our plans to be married. Her mother came through the hallway and announced she had to make a trip up to the grocery store. I thought nothing of it at the time, but during our entire relationship her mother had never left us alone in the house together. When her mom had left for the store Phyllis asked me to come upstairs. What happened next was really rather disturbing for me. As Phyllis entered her bedroom she laid down on the bed and said to me, “Make love to me”. As I had always dreamed that we wouldn’t go all the way till our wedding day this unexpected behavior from Phyllis became another one of those traumatic experiences that happened. I did my best to keep it together, but it felt like I’d just been punched in the stomach and all the wind was knocked out of me. It was like the world around me stood still while I was sinking into a dark hole. I couldn’t allow myself to get all emotional, but I know she saw the confusion and disappointment on my face as I responded, “Phyllis, this is something important. This is something we have to wait for our wedding night for.” I flat out refused to have sex with her then, and the engagement ring in my pocket never found it’s way out. I tried to reassure Phyllis that we only had a year to wait and I’d be 18 and I’d be back for her.

The next year was horrible. I struggled to hold onto her, but she seemed to struggle to be free of me. In her letters she’d write about guys who would come into the ice cream shop where she worked and how they’d chat her up and ask her out. The love I had for Phyllis was unconditional and solid. I felt she was the same so when she told me about going to a neighborhood carnival with a Native American guy who had come into the ice cream shop and asked her to go I didn’t think much about it. I didn’t want to act like a jealous idiot who doubted her commitment to me. Then she told me about going to to a bar called the Toy Tiger and getting drunk. I knew I wasn’t going to hold onto her by getting upset with her behavior or trying to control her. I was just trying to hold onto her till April when I turned 18 and could return to living in Kentucky.

My grandmother was very happy to have me come live with her. I flew into Louisville the day before my 18th birthday. I was so happy to be home again. I phoned Phyllis and let her know I’d arrived. My grandmother didn’t know all the details about my relationship with Phyllis. I imagine my mother had told her a lot, but I had not. There was just one phone in the house and of course my grandmother had to plant herself in the room every time I would call Phyllis. I didn’t yet have an automobile of my own so I had no way to go into Louisville to see Phyllis. For now, we had phone calls and I was trying hard to reassure Phyllis she was the reason I’d returned and that all the plans we’d made would happen. I had to be sure she was stable however because her behavior had been rather worrying. I’d committed myself to moving back, but before I could even think about asking my grandmother to invite her out I had to know we were on track again.

It’s not easy now to relive these memories and understand why I blocked them. I was trying to so hard to hold onto the girl I loved without doing anything that might push her further away. Now, I that I’ve found my voice I seem to be doing all the things that will make sure she never returns to me. It’s not what I want, but I’ve been living this hell because of Phyllis for over 40 years and if she wants to play games and not speak with me then that’s on her, but I can no longer be silent. Silence equals death. I’ve felt dead inside for too long.

Maybe I should have gotten angry with Phyllis and become threatening? Maybe I should have become physically abusive to show her how much I was in control of things. As someone who had grown up being treated like that I was programmed to be the exact opposite. My mother would drink and become mentally and physically abusive. When you grow up like that you learn quick how to avoid stirring up your abuser’s wrath. I became the good little boy who was always walking on egg shells trying to make sure I didn’t do anything to rock the boat. I wasn’t able to become accusatory, or jealous, or violent with Phyllis. I couldn’t be that kind of man, but it seems that’s the kind of man she wanted and ended up with. Could Phyllis be the kind of woman who needs an abusive man? Is that the reason she has never left him? I was told that all of her siblings offered to help her get away from him, but she’d only go so far and then she’d always return to him. Her mom hoped that she’d live long enough to see Phyllis leave Patrick, but that never happened. Her mom told me through the passing years more than once how she’s wished Phyllis had married me.

That day Phyllis tried to get me to have sex with her I believe was a set-up. For a long time I was naïve enough to think the whole moment was organic, but then I remembered Phyllis once showing me a calendar in the kitchen where she kept track of her monthly cycle. I now believe it was all planned for her to become pregnant so our wedding date would be a year earlier than planned.

Of course, these things are all just assumptions I’ve come to based on the clues. Phyllis has not confirmed anything because we have never got around to talking about the serious and destructive things she did that ended our relationship. I was too busy trying to do things to keep the relationship alive, and didn’t want to bring up difficult subjects that could be talked about another day after we were married. I tried to get some answers out of her when we were talking on the phone and emailing some years back in 2007-2009, but emails always made it easy to avoid responding to my questions. All these years and I’ve never gotten answers. It’s time I got the answers and receive some closure. I’ve suffered far too long.

It’s time for me to take a break from writing again. I’ll continue later.

29 September 2021

A friend just sent me this meme (below) this morning and it sure does make sense that in the last couple days I have had buried memories that I have not been able to access in many years now suddenly come to the surface. This really kinda freaks me out, because of what it says in Genesis 1:14 “And God said, “Let there be lights in the expanse of the sky to distinguish between the day and the night, and let them be signs to mark the seasons and days and years.

This feels like confirmation that it’s no coincidence I’m remembering these things about Phyllis and I at this time. Phyllis are you remembering things about how perfect our relationship was and how pure and satisfying our love was? Phyllis I know Patrick has been controlling your mind for decades and psychologically when this happens and one gives over to the control it becomes comforting–just do as he says and there won’t be any hell to pay. This is how all abusers control their victims. I’m not asking you to pack your bags, split the assets and divorce Patrick, but what I am asking is for you to be a responsible person to me and do the simple kindness you never did when your erratic behavior brought my whole life crashing down and had me hospitalized because I wanted my life to end. You owe me some answers even if you never want to see me again. All the hell I’ve been through in this life was because I was trying to escape the pain of you leaving me. I went to bizarre extremes to become a different person so I didn’t have to the be person you crushed. It took 20 years for me to get to a place where I could drop the disassociative identity I had created for myself before I could return to my true identity through the One who created me in the womb. To be clear, I simply want answers as to why you did what you did if you even understand your actions. Everything that happens on our lives happens for a reason to teach our souls things they need to know so in that way be sure I don’t have anger or blame towards you. I just want to understand it all and you hold the keys that unlock so many mysteries. Is emailing me like you once did too much to ask?

7 October 2021

Every year of my life since I have known you Phyllis when the month October rolls around it’s always a sad reminder that I don’t get to share your birthday on the 23rd with you. Instead, you spend it with a man who had done nothing but abuse you for decades and doesn’t love you, but has some weird obsession with you. Yeah, he may have married you, but it’s been no marriage. Where had been the joy, the children, the happiness. For some marriage can be a living hell and at least your marriage has indeed been a marriage in that way.

It’s really a disturbing feeling that you do not contact me. Three years have passed so unbelievably quick when I was in contact with your sister Joan Hogan Moser. I have her my email and phone number for you to contact me about signing off on some paperwork for my the book I’m having published about you. I wanted to publish the book with your approval and blessing, but it seems it will go to the publisher with out. I know some people want to sue people for things written about them in books, but I know you would never do that. All you are concerned with is Patrick Hickey never finds out about my book and the things I reveal in it about you and I.

Why would Joan lie and say that you do not have access to email. Everybody has email, yet she wrote this to me in 2018:

As I have said before, you could always have a phone you keep at work where you could call me from time to time, but you don’t do that? What has Patrick Hickey done to you to fill you with such fear of the chance of him finding out you are talking to me? All I can do is wonder and guess about your motivations since you have stopped contacting me. I know you don’t have feelings for your abuser, so the only thing left is that you are just hoping to outlive him. Your sister Zina told me that Patrick is ill and had diabetes so I guess you are just hoping he will die soon and leave you all the assets. Maybe if he were to find out you were talking to me and planning on us getting back together he would disinherit you and leave all the assets to his family before he dies and maybe even divorce you and leave you flat without a coin. I guess all the above are options.

Joan wrote some really nasty messages after that one and then she blocked contact on As you had long ago let me know what kind of person she was her behavior came as no surprise, but I was surprised that on her Facebook page she goes on and on about being a Christian, but then has such unChristian behavior. So many people simply profess they are Christian for business purposes, to gain respect in the market place, to create a false reputation for themselves. Far too many Christians we’ve all seen are just hate-filled people who are nothing like what the Bible or Yeshua expects them to be. I think Yeshua called those people hypocrites.

In my last correspondence with Zina I think I got her being dishonest with me yet once again and I blocked her on, but she pursued the matter in multiple text messages to my phone and to my email. I responded wanting to extend her the benefit of the doubt, but she didn’t respond so I guess that means all out war between us now, so as they say, “all bets are off”. I’d once told her that I keep all our conversations confidential, but now that she has betrayed me I don’t think I’ll be held to the promise anymore. Zina told me all kinds of horrible things about you and Pat. I’m not trying to drive any wedge between you and your sisters that isn’t there or doesn’t deserve to be there. I think however they all are as bewildered as to why you have stayed with Pat when he has been so abusive. Maybe old age and illness has put Patrick in a place where he has had to soften up a bit? Zina told that Patrick has allowed you to drive the car places all by yourself. Is this a new development because you told me different in your emails and phone calls 2007-2009. What’s the real truth?

Forgive me if the tone of all this seems angry, but when people lie to me it does cause emotional pain, especially when it’s people I’ve placed my trust in. My memory takes me back to the trust I had in you as my fiancé that you would wait for me and then what kind of slap in the face do I get when I turn 18 and return for you? I month after I arrive back in Kentucky to get us back on track you run off an marry Patrick Hickey and crush my heart all over again, and I guess that should have been the final nail in my coffin, so to speak. I tried to end my life twice because of the emotional heartache you caused me, but somehow I found the strength to go on. Me without you was not part of the plan and systematically, if I wasn’t gonna be dead and released from the pain, I was going to kill of the person I was and become someone new, so the boy who had his heart broken by the girl who was supposed to be his wife and mother of his children would no longer exist to haunt me with his pain. In psychology we call that “disassociating”.

9 October 2021

I get quite a few emails from readers of my blog asking me why I haven’t moved on from this girl who obviously never loved me. Some have suggested that I find a woman that isn’t looking to manipulate me the way she did. Marry a woman who wants love and companionship, not a woman who seems to wants to marry any man that will take care of her. Someone pointed out that she married Patrick Hickey because the military includes spouses and she knew she’d be taken care of.

Phyllis was advised to go back to school by her sister Zina so she could have a career to support herself. If a woman relies on a man to support her and she doesn’t work then she comes a slave to her master (husband). Getting an education and good money-making career of your own is a good thing in the event the marriage dissolves and you have to support yourself. Zina learned this in her own failed marriage to a man who discouraged her from returning to school.

Could the cold, hard truth that I do not want to accept be that Phyllis only saw me as a possible ticket to freedom from her family? If this why she seemed to have no emotional remorse about how she devastated my life when she dumped me? Obviously, she is in a marriage where there has never been in love. Is this how some women operate? They have no drive of their own for success? Just latch onto a man who will buy a house, buy the food, and buy you clothes and jewelry? Are girls taught this by this mothers that this is the way things are for women in this world, this man’s world?

Love is blind. Did the girl I thought I knew actually exist? Did she ever really love me or was she just playing a role to secure a financial benefactor? Hey, don’t get me wrong! I have traditional human family values. Women have the breasts to feed the babies for a reason. It takes two to make a family and a home run smoothly. The one with the breast milk is the primary caretaker of the children and works inside the home while nurturing and educating the children while the other who is not tied down by breast feeding goes out and supports the family by means outside of the home. I believe in the traditional way human families operate, but I also know that some women probably get psychologically skewed in an anxious hunt to find a man to support them before the flower of alluring youth is gone.

Phyllis told me she and Patrick Hickey never had children together because she developed female problems that lead her to not be able to have a child. I wonder if that was true? Maybe that is what she old Patrick while she secretly took birth control so she wouldn’t have to bear children for an abusive man she hates? Why bring children into a world where a pycho father would be psychologically damaging them and creating more abusive monsters?

Oh, Phyllis if you only knew the perfect and happy life we could have had together. I saw our life starting out on my grandparents farm where we’d be building our own home down by the lake. I could see us today with our kids grown with children of their own now. Generations working a family beef cattle ranch. I had envisioned a farm store where we’d sell our garden produce, our organic grass fed and finished beef, eggs, chickens. It would have been a wonderful life. You could have still pursued a career outside the home if you wanted, but I think you’d have enjoyed being a farmer and raising our children on the farm. I know my 40 years on that farm were the best years of my life.

So much about me you never got the know. My grandmother took me direct from the hospital when I was born because my mother didn’t want me. My mother wanted to put me up for adoption. I remember my grandmother telling me about when I was old enough to sit up and play she’d set me in the shade of an Ash tree at the edge of the garden and I’d play in the fresh tilled garden dirt with a couple of tin cans. As I became older my first memories of gardening duty was to follow behind her and the tiller and pick the weeds out of the tilled soil and put them in a bushel basket to be disposed of. It would have been nice to have continued such traditions with my own children, but you didn’t allow us that. You chose misery over love and happiness and changed the course of both our lives for the worse. I wish you’d realize it ain’t too late. Yeah, you hurt me, but I’m also fair. I know I can imagine why you did that you did and piece together the story from what I’ve been told by your mom and two sisters, but there is nothing like hearing what you were going through that made you do what you did. Never got to hear your heart’s story, but I’m still out here hoping I will one day. I still imagine us having a chance of picking up where we left off before we were pulled apart by a 1000 miles between us. I imagine us adopting a couple children to be grandparents to so we don’t have to feel like we were cheated out of our dreams. As I’ve said before, perhaps you are just hoping Patrick will hurry up and die and leave you everything so you don’t have to only get half in a divorce. I can only imagine since you don’t let me know…

One thing is for sure. This boy has loved you with all his heart for a lot of years. I’ve tried to forget you, but it was impossible. I pushed myself to date other girls, but it felt disrespectful to the love for you in my heart that left no room for anybody else to come along. I tried to change my life in many ways so I could forget the me that loved you. Nothing I did worked. I’m stuck loving you I guess till the day I die. I hate to think it, but my life may end with you never returning to me just like in the old George Jones song, He Stopped Loving Her Today.

18 October 2021

This coming Saturday should be a day of joy for me, but instead it’s only a sad reminder each year that has passed since 1979 that Phyllis has turned another year older without me being able to ….well, why bother writing it? You already know what I’m gonna say.

I woke up in the middle of the night with the thumb and the first two fingers of my left hand tingling with numbness. I thought perhaps I’d laid on my hand or something and it would go away, but it didn’t. The numb feeling continues. If only the feeling could move up to my heart.

BTW, Phyllis, if you are having any paranoid type fears that I’m gonna do something romantically stupid for your birthday, you can give those thoughts a rest. Yes, I’m tormented each year on your birthday wishing things were different and I could sent you flowers, shower you with gifts, and celebrate the fact that I’ve so glad you are here and in my life, but that’s what could have been. Don’t worry, I won’t be sending any flowers to your employment or anything.

I used to know the joy that loving someone brought into my life. Now that I’m near the end of my life I contemplate how living these 42 years without you has been worth it. I knew I could never commit adultery by taking you as my wife if you divorced Patrick. My only hope was that he’d die as soon as possible leaving you widowed and we’d have a chance again. I dreamed of making up for all the hellish years you suffered with Patrick.

I’ve tried and tried to get you to contact me again, but you do not. That’s why when today I saw that meme on my friend’s social media page today I knew it was speaking to me. It let me know that you simply just don’t want me in your life in any shape or fashion. It’s like the last nail being driven into my coffin, so to speak. I feel like my romantic hope has died. It’s a hard thing to feel unloved by someone you love.

22 October 2021

Yesterday morning I stood at the sink washing dishes and gazing out onto the San Jacinto mountains that are only a walking distance from my home. Mindless activities like washing dishes lends itself naturally to enter into thought and contemplation. Sadly, my thoughts were about you and the decisions you made that caused unspeakable misery in both our lives. You ditched me, the good guy that would have treated you like a queen, and instead you allowed an evil man to take control of your life and make it a hell on earth.

I can’t imagine you’ve had a happy birthday since being with him. You’ve endured decades of psychological conditioning with him that now I don’t know if there is truly any good in you that has survived. To survive you have had to be more intelligent than your captor. You’ve learned the play the meek and agreeable wife just so “the old coot” as you call him doesn’t give you hell. As a result the real you was replaced by a deceptive you who’s love has grown cold. Like my friend let me know the other day, “If someone wanted you in their life they’d put some effort into showing it. Since 2018 when I corresponded with Joan–nothing. These months I’ve corresponded with Zina–nothing. Maybe you’ve died on the inside and you simply reside in a shell of a person I used to know.

I was looking at a photo of you on the website and you look as if you are unable to smile like the rest of the people in the photo. You look like you are carrying the cares of the world. When I found this photo of you a couple years ago it saddened me to see how you’ve changed. You used to smile and be so happy all the time I knew you from our days at Barret middle school till the last time I actually spent time with you the year my family came north to visit and you asked me to have sex with you when your mother left the house.

Phyllis Hogan 2018

Well, even if I never hear from you again, even if I would hear from you that you were furious with me it would make me happy, but I hope maybe if you ever loved me you might have a secret moment of happiness on your birthday tomorrow knowing it will be impossible for me to escape having you on my mind all day, like you’ve been every year for over 40 years.

23 October 2021

It’s 9:30 pm in your part of the world now. I made it through another of your birthday’s without you. It wasn’t so bad. For some reason I had an unexpected peace throughout the day without feeling down. I wonder if that is because it’s finally sinking in that you don’t care about me. I guess I’ve been a fool. Your letters of 12 years ago made me feel you were ready to break free of Patrick and you and I would have a chance to begin again.

I realize since it was nothing for you to be intimate with me and then become intimate with other guys that perhaps you’ve done the same with Patrick. Your sister Zina told me that Patrick now allows you to drive the car so that gives you the opportunity to have a lover on the side. That thought runs through my mind as to the reason why you no longer contact me. Why would you want to contact me if you got yourself all set with one man whom you hope will die soon and a lover that will be there for you when the old coot finally kicks the bucket. Zina told me Patrick is not in good health at all and also has diabetes. I guess that is good news for you and whatever other man is in your life. I wonder if there is someone else giving you secret birthday gifts that Patrick doesn’t know about?

Do I sound bitter or angry? Don’t think that. I’m just thinking out loud trying to answer the questions you’ve never been kind enough to answer for me that have tormented me all these years since you left me. They are just questions and possible answers that float around in my head. It’s just really strange that you no longer care to contact me. If I were to think of other reason’s why you may not be contacting me maybe Patrick found out about you calling and writing me years ago and you caught hell for it and he threatened you?

I’m sure I’ve done nothing to make this a happy birthday for you unless somewhere deep down inside it might make you feel good to know you still have my heart after all these years.

18 November 2021

I’ve been quiet a bit as of late. I got an email from someone claiming to be you, Phyllis. Did you send me an email? I wrote back asking for you to call so I could confirm it was you, but there has been no phone call even though I have patiently waited for several weeks. Perhaps it was someone having a joke on me? I imagine it was because whoever wrote me said they feared Pat and his illness was going to drain everything you’d worked for all your life and you were prepared to leave him now. The letter detailed that you would not be able to leave him without him suing you for divorce and you’d leave with nothing. In the emails it went on to say how the jewelry store you work for has a lot of inventory for the holiday season and you could walk out with a purse full of gems and head straight for the airport.

It all sounds ridiculously crazy and I haven’t received a reply so I guess enjoy a good laugh that someone is spoofing me. Could it have been you and you’ve thought better of such a ridiculous plan? Ridiculous or not I actually even did some internet searching if there was a country where an American would not be extradited for jewelry theft. I was surprised at what I found, but I could never be an accessory or beneficiary of a crime.

I just wanted to get this out there and off my chest. There are some other things on my mind that I will write about later to you.

21 November 2021

I have often wondered whatever became of the gold betrothal bracelet I gave you?

When I gave you the bracelet as an engagement bracelet I did not do it consciously knowing it was how engagements were enacted in Biblical times.

In the Bible when a man and a woman became engaged (betrothed) to one another a divorce would be required if they later chose not to remain together. A prime example is given in the in the Gospels when Yosef was betrothed to Maria. The Gospels tell us that when the virgin Maria announced her pregnancy by the Holy Spirit that Yosef did not believe her at first and was making plans to “put her away secretly”. In plain language it means he was going to divorce her very discretely.

As someone who does believe in G_d, and our Savior Yeshua, I understand that in G_d’s eyes you became my wife and we never had a divorce. Do we say that G_d does not matter, and that a legal government contract of marriage supersedes G_d?

I do not bring up these things to punish you mentally, but I am relaying things that have punished me mentally over the years since you left me. These are things it has taken me a long time to understand. For so many years I attempted to run away from the pain, but now the days of running are over. I once dreamed that I might find love again, but it didn’t happen. Over the many years I finally accepted that there was but one love for me in this life that was meant to be and there would be no replacements.

One must decide whether their faith is real or if it is something one professes when it’s convenient or they can profit from the professing of such faith. The gravity of this revelation has weighed very heavily on me as a person of faith. My faith allows me to understand I have an obligation to you which has not been fulfilled, and may never be fulfilled in this lifetime, sadly.

Under the laws of the State of Kentucky you were not married to me when you married Patrick Hickey, but to me and to G_d we were man and wife already and that makes what you did adultery. I did the same, yet worse perhaps. I had sex with a girl I did not marry after you left me and married Patrick. It was all done by both of us in ignorance at the time, but just the same it was done. It was just several months ago that I reconnected with this certain young woman and asked her to forgive me for my actions of many years ago. I told her I knew I’d probably hurt her even though she ever said I did and that I now knew after what we did together I had an obligation to marry her. She understood and forgave me. While she did not see it as the issue I saw it as she understood my need to be forgiven. She is very happily married and her first grandchild just arrived a month ago. That made me think of the grandchildren we should have had that we could be enjoying now. Ah, well….

I don’t know that you and I ever had a discussion about G_d and faith, Phyllis. I guess that was our first downfall. I don’t know if you have any faith at all or not. I think the closest you and I ever got to the subject was listening together the Beach Boys song, God Only Knows. If you do not believe in G_d, our Savior Yeshua the Christ then I guess all I am saying to you has no meaning for you. I’ve shared what I wanted to share with you so now I will close the subject.

Leaving you this link on the latest and up to date research on the Shroud of Turin. Nobody can no longer say this burial shroud is the work of some medieval artist or a forgery. Even with all our modern technology scientists who have examined the shroud have stated that there is no way for man to reproduce such an image. I know faith can be a difficult road for many people, but this burial shroud is certain evidence of one thing. Whoever’s image is on this shroud was certainly loved of the Almighty Creator to have resurrected him from the dead and left such an undeniable testimony as this.

26 December 2021

Another morning awakening from a dream with you in it. For many years I have purposely avoided talking about dreams I’ve had with you. You’ve been there always in my dreams since I met you, probably even before I met you. Never the same dream twice although I know it’s possible that it’s happened and I have not remembered the dreams. Dream memory is often elusive. I’ve found that it’s very important at the very moment of beginning to reach consciousness from a dream that I must take great care to quickly mentally document the events that have just transpired or the dream is lost forever. I try to suppress full consciousness as long as possible while I review and document all moments of the dream still available to me in my mind. When I’m satisfied I’ve gone over the dream enough times and have it firmly documented in my mind I allow myself to become fully conscious. This has become my standard operating process for recounting my dreams.

Awakening from such dreams have the effect of making me quiet for hours as I contemplate all the moments of the dream like frames of a film. Because it’s almost like having been able to share a real moment so I must admit it does create a bit of melancholy for a while. I guess that is part of the being quiet for hours afterwards. Dreams are like some kind of parallel universe where we continue to be able to have new experiences with those we have lost. Are they new experiences or glimpses into other lives with the same soul?

What can one say about dreams? I know some people have had dreams where they experience memories from past reincarnations. A woman I follow on Facebook by the name of Jenny Cockell reincarnated almost immediately after the death of her life as a women named Mary who died from complications in childbirth. She was able to eventually track down all the children from her past life and meet them. All of the children who were now decades older than her were able to verify through memories (that she had no physical access to), that she was indeed their mother reincarnated.

I won’t go into details here, but as you may imagine, over the past 40 years I’ve dreamed every dream imaginable and then some. I do want to say though I had the honor of meeting your father, Jewell. Funny how dreams work where someone who has already passed over can show up in a dream to give away his daughter on her wedding day. In the dream Phyllis had her mother on one arm and father on the other as they escorted her to the wedding canopy.

Life is but a dream…

9 January 2022

Every day of my life I am unable to escape you. The image of your eyes sparkling in the sunlight through the kitchen window haunts me. The sunlight could not keep your pupils from dilating because of the love you were feeling for me. I know you loved me and still do, but somewhere along the line you got confused. I hope one day you will be able to explain that confusion to me that lead you to make the biggest mistake of your life. The love you gave to me I have held onto as a testimony that I was once loved in this world. Ever since you left me though it seems nothing has gone right in my life, although I know that everything happens for a reason. Perhaps in a past life together I hurt you very badly. Maybe in the last life it was I who left you and broke your heart and now I am experiencing the karma of that deed. Whatever the case may be, even though it hurts to still be in love with you and not be able to talk to you, I will yet cling to forgiveness and understanding, and the hope that one day you will wipe the tears from my eyes as I tell you I love you.

10 January 2022

Yes, I do believe that everything happens for a reason from lifetime to lifetime and from body to body. Indeed, that is the foundation of our life experiences on this school planet.

I was asking myself this morning what was it I could have done to hurt the soul of Phyllis Hogan so badly that I would be charged with so many years of my own soul suffering in this lifetime. To have become one with her in love and then to have that union crushed.

I am a firm believer in reincarnation. Anytime I discuss the validity of reincarnation with anyone I always ask them to watch two videos on Youtube about the documented past lives of James Leininger and Jenny Cockell, two people who are living today. Anytime my unbelieving mind would try to make me discount the phenomenon I go to these cases and review them again. Similarly, our heavenly Father created the resurrection shroud of Yeshua Messiah that could not be corrupted by man like the Scriptures have been.

I wish I could know if I will ever see Phyllis again before I die. One thing I can take to heart about reincarnation and karma is that if Phyllis and I do not resume our relationship in this lifetime we will in the next because that is how it all operates. Until an important life situation is resolved you will return with another chance to get it right. If I have to wait for the next life I swear I’m gonna be sure to marry her within days of finding her so I don’t lose her for another lifetime of heartbreak.

23 January 2022

It’s been a week of uncertainty and stress because of a case of COVID close to me. It’s an ugly waiting game when you hope you don’t begin to have symptoms.

6 January 2022

I know having a blog is a dramatic thing in and of itself without creating any dramatic entries. Sometimes I shy away from making an entry because I can’t think of a way to write about something in a nondramatic fashion.

COVID-19 is dramatic. Yesterday over a 1000 people died of COVID in the USA. Being someone who is at a high risk for blood clots due to my chromosome pattern forces me to live a very restricted life since I can’t be vaccinated. Sometimes I think about the risk of being vaccinated and having blood clots forming all over my body and killing me. I think about COVID eventually finding me and killing me. It’s difficult to avoid the depressing thoughts, but then I think of everything else I’ve overcome in life to make it this far and it lifts the depression a bit.

I don’t want to die from COVID. The coming of Moshiach is so close and I want to remain healthy and live to see Him come and hear Him welcome me into His Kingdom. In non-Messianic Judaism, according to prophecy, it is expected for Moshiach to come before 2027. Of course, I believe that Moshiach Yeshua who has already come and will come again. Waiting for His arrival has added stress because of COVID. I don’t want to go by way of the grave. We are so close to the final prophecies being fulfilled before the Blessed Hope of the catching away. Sometime between today and the next five years is not much longer to wait for something really big to happen that will signal His immanent return.

14 February 2022

No, I have not forgotten you on this date. I have not forgotten anything in the 43 years since 1979. I know this is not a pleasant day for you either. I have my pain from the last 43 years and you have yours. I know what it was like to live with someone who psychologically and physically abused me for the first 18 years of my life, but I got away from my abuser, my mother. You married your abuser and have suffered so much longer. I don’t know how you have mentally managed. Maybe one day two broken hearts will mend.

5 March 2022

A lot of people do not know that G_d created a calendar in the Bible, and it’s not the Roman calendar that is used today across so much of the world. On G_d’s calendar today is the 2nd day of the month of Ayar which happens to be my 58th anniversary of my birth. I’ve often told people however, that I believe life begins at conception so in fact when I was born I was 9 months old. This turns the Western idea of birthdays and age on it’s head as when you add 3 more months to 9 that means I’ll actually be 59-years-old in three months from now. I know it sounds very different from what many people are used to, but if you are one of those people who do not believe life begins at conception then you can forget all I’ve just told you. lol

Since my last entry the world has been turned upside down by Russia’s Dictator Putin whom I call the reincarnation of Adolph Hitler. Just like Hitler he thinks he can take over countries to create his own Reich, all the while murdering so many innocent people to accomplish his goal. It’s horrifying to think this mad man will eventually use nuclear weapons to achieve his goal as he has threatened. I saw somewhere a Russian citizen placed a million dollar bounty on his life. I am a believer in someone being brought to justice by a judicial system for their crimes against humanity and being punished, but I also know that in extreme cases of war crimes and the slaughter of so many innocent people that it’s also acceptable for such a monster to be receive justice by assassination. Dark thoughts on a dark, and cold, rainy night…

8 March 2022

Today is the 18th anniversary since my grandmother passed. 18 years is a long time. I was 18 years-old when I returned to Kentucky to live with my grandmother with the intention of collecting my bride. I remember that snowy April day so clearly as if it were yesterday. Why can it not be yesterday? It makes me feel very sad now that I look back over the last 18 years and my grandmother is gone and Phyllis ran off with some other guy when I was 18 and broke my heart, again. When you love someone I guess they get to break your heart a lot just like a wayward child breaks a mother’s heart, but she never stops loving her child.

24 March 2022

I was remembering Loretta today and her movie, Coal Miners Daughter that came out in March of 1980. For some reason my memory ain’t coming back to me too well. Can you help me remember, Phyllis? I remember going to see it at the Showcase Cinema’s on Bardstown Road and I got the souvenir movie booklet. I also remember having the movie soundtrack album. For the life of me though I cannot remember who I was at the movie with. Did I go with you, Phyllis? Did I go to the movie with my family? I don’t know why that memory seems to be blanked out.

25 March 2022

I got to thinking more about Loretta today. Ya know she is gonna be 89 next month. My grandma was 89 when she passed. The last video I can find of Loretta is from September of last year when she put out a holler for people to come to the benefit for the recent flood victims where she lives. I look at her in that short clip and she reminds me so much of my grandmother. She looks really good for 89 especially after recovering from a stoke in 2018. If only my grandmother would have had a few years to recover from her stoke instead of dying a few months later. I know it was the same situation with your momma where the stroke was the beginning of the end.

I was in the kitchen this morning making my juice, baked a German chocolate cake with the apple pulp I had left over for juicing. I usually make apple butter with it, but I got way too much apple butter stocked up in the house. Adding about a cup of apple sauce to my chocolate cake batter is my secret to making an extra yummy moist cake. I juice some kale too. Last week I made kale pesto. This week I used the kale pulp to make my own version of Italian wedding soup. I guess I picked up my love of cooking from my grandmother. It gives me some undistracted quality time to think.

Once again you came into my thoughts. Forty-four years now I’ve carried you with me in my heart. In forty-four years you still look the same as when we first met. You know, I was thinking about how you’ve stuck it out all these years with Patrick. One day I hope you will feel comfortable enough to tell how you made it through. I know I’ve said it before, but even though I know he has put you through hell, I think of how you stayed married and didn’t divorce him for abuse. It lets me know you would have been there for me if we’d ever had any stressful times in our marriage. I know you’ve paid a very high price for your sense of security and I hope one day you’ll tell me about that too. How you could suffer through all these years in a loveless marriage with an abuser. I can’t understand, but I hope you’ll be able to talk about it one day. When I think about what you’ve must have experienced it makes me sad, because I know our life together would have been so different, filled with love everyday, and I know we would have had kids. I’ve really missed that part too. Now that I’m getting older I wonder who will be there for me in my old age. I might have to find a child to adopt?

30 March 2022

I am deeply saddened by the loss of innocent life in Ukraine. I wish I was a younger man so I could join the thousands of men from countries around the world who have traveled to the Ukraine to join them in their effort to defeat Putin. Vice News has a Youtube account that I can go to when I want some real on the ground reporting. They apply a graphic warning to their videos because they want you to see what is really happening. I saw a video today of bodies frozen stiff stacked up in warehouse. These are bodies of people who have nobody coming to claim them for burial. I cry. I feel helpless.

Innocent people were just standing in line to enter a grocery store when the Russians bombed the hell out of them. Many old senior citizens and women with small children and babies. Bloody dead bodies lay on the ground outside the super market being covered by tarps for respect. So sad.

What can I do? At the first out break of the war I began sending money to various known and trusted relief agencies. At the beginning of this month the National Bank of Ukraine opened a fund for their armed forces to donate to and that made me feel like I am doing all I can. Note: If you choose to donate to the National Bank of Ukraine armed forces account then know your bank may deny the charge on your card unless you call them since it is an overseas charge. I had to do that so they approved the merchant. I hate the fact that the armies of the world are not stopping Putin, but thankfully I can help Ukraine’s army and the many volunteers from Ukraine and men from around the world who have gone to join the fight in a civilian army. If you want to donate to the Ukraine armed forces through the National Bank of Ukraine go to this trusted link that I myself use:

3 April 2022

April 3rd is always a day never to be forgotten from 1974 in Louisville, Kentucky. There was a band of tornados all the way from Georgia to Canada. My home was very lucky and the tornado recoiled up into the sky and missed my neighborhood. Many areas in Louisville were hit hard.

I have survived much in this life. I shouldn’t say I survived, but instead I should say I was spared and protected. Through so many hardships in this lifetime, and some close calls I’ve made it through and I’m still here. I must still be here for a reason and I sure hope that reason is that Yeshua wants me to be here to see him when the rapture happens. I hope it will be soon. Things are shaping up.

Just weeks ago the Temple Institute in Jerusalem became unusually very secretive about details about the red heifers they have been monitoring. In years past they have given informational updates, but the only thing we get now is the heifers they are watching will be eligible to sacrifice for their ashes in six months. These ashes will cleanse the Temple Mount and be for the purifying of the priests, and many other people, and things. The main thing is this means Yeshua coming to rapture His bride very soon. Within six months the Temple could begin to be rebuilt. I don’t know how it will be accomplished with the Muslim problem on the Temple mount. I just know the Father has it all under control. I pray everyday for forgiveness of sin, strive to keep Torah, and have all my faith counting on being worthy to see Yeshua and go with Him.

I feel very sad for those who don’t keep His Torah and will be rejected like the five virgins who had no oil in their lamps. I’ve tried to warn people, but so many people’s minds are made up and get angry when you try to open their eyes to the obvious meaning of scripture that they have been taught against in their Edomite Churches.

19 April 2022

It’s been a trying week. The latest event to get through was the death yesterday someone important in my life. With that my mission here in the California desert is coming to a close. The next location of destiny has not made itself known yet, but I’ve been thinking a lot about an old farmhouse with enough land to recreate a homestead farm like the one I grew up on with my grandparents. My home here must be sold and the house in Colorado must be sold too. I just hope the housing market continues to ride high till both homes can be sold. I’d hate to see a housing market crash come. I’ve heard one is expected because real estate prices are too high.

Blood thirsty Putin of Russia is still murdering the people of the Ukraine in his attempt to resurrect the former Soviet Union.

Speaking of resurrection, Sunday was “First Fruits Sunday” when Yeshua King Mashiach resurrected from the dead. If all the Bibles were gone tomorrow and all we had left was Yeshua’s burial shroud then that is all that we would need to know he resurrected from the dead and will soon be returning for the final redemption. The science in this video about the Shroud of Turin is so awesome. I weep.

My blackberries are in bloom. Grandma always used to call this, “blackberry and locust bloom season”. I remember the stand of white locust trees down in the southeast pasture along the fence that smelled so delicious in the Spring.

I heard a tornado rolled through the Louisville area last week. I hope you were no affected.

26 April 2022

Phyllis, I wish I knew about your faith. I wonder if you have any faith at all. My interest in knowing about your faith came up in my thoughts today because I happened across a Youtube video about a possible date for the Rapture that is coming up on June 15th. Here’s the link:

Let me say that I’m not a fan of date setting, but it is a blessed hope that I be worthy and how happy I will be to see Yeshua coming in the clouds and giving me a glorified body and taking me to heaven. It’s being predicted for sunrise on June 15th in Jerusalem, Israel. That would be 5:33am AM in Israel. When it’s 5:33 AM in Israel it will be 10:33pm on June 14th in Louisville if you are on EST.

I’ve had to suffer through this lifetime without having you at my side and I don’t want to think of eternity without you. If the Rapture does happen on June 14th I hope I am worthy and you will be worthy too and we will be reunited on the other side. I guess that is the best I can hope for in this lifetime. It makes me sad that you don’t contact me, but I imagine you don’t because you decided years ago, when we were communicating in 2007, that it was just too much for you to handle dealing with an abusive Patrick and your feelings for me. I don’t blame you. I can only imagine how you are probably barely holding it together having lived such a life with Patrick. I can imagine even after he is gone you may just want to be alone. While I understand you might feel that way, I hope you don’t because I feel like that would just be more of your life being destroyed by Patrick. When he dies you are finally free to live again and I think you should find love and happiness whether it would be me or someone else. Why am I so nice? Why would I say such a thing? You being happy is more important to me than my own happiness. That’s how much I care about you. I want you to feel loved and happy and if you don’t think you can feel that way with me then I can accept that. Ultimately, G_d knows what is best for each and every soul and if I’ve gone through all this hell and I was not ever truly meant to be with you then I will accept that as G_d’s will and I will accept that with joy.

2 May 2022

The other day I posted an article about the Rapture. In it I linked to a video of Rabbi Isser Weisberg. Rabbi Weisberg is Jewish and like many Jews does not speak about or admit to any faith in Christianity. Just because a Jewish person does not believe in Christianity does not mean they do not believe that Yeshua (aka Jesus) could be the promised Messiah. Separating the Jewish Yeshua from the Greek Christian Jesus is a bit tricky and not a concept that most Christians would easily understand. Greek-Roman Christianity too a 1st century Jewish Rabbi named Yeshua, changed his name and twisted his message so that Christianity became a murderous religion responsible for the slaughter of many millions of Jews over the past couple centuries.

There is a tradition on the Sabbath to serve fish. This tradition began over 700 years ago presumably in Europe. There is more to this history, but I’m not gonna there right now. If you’ve ever made fried salmon patties or tuna patties you may not have thought that these recipes were originally created as a way to stretch fish. It’s like making meat loaf that recipes call for bread crumbs and oatmeal to make a small piece of meat go future. Anyway, a traditional similar recipe to stretch fish was adopted by Jews and it’s called Gefilte fish. “Gefilte” is the Yiddish version of a German word that means, “to stuff”. Originally, the fish would be removed from the skin. The bones would all be removed and then the fish would be chopped and mixed with spices and various ingredients and then stuffed back into the fish skin and baked. Gefilte fish is a variation of this.

I’m telling this history for a good reason. Just wait for it… lol

This past week I picked up some Haddock at the market. I had weeks earlier made some rolls from some sourdough I’d made. Sourdough bread is a treat for me as it’s very low on gluten as the sourdough process kills the gluten in the dough. Anyway, I had frozen a bag of these sourdough dinner rolls and wanted to get them out of the freezer to make room for other things so I decided to use them all to make a Haddock gefilte fish this past Sabbath. Twelve rolls made a lot of breadcumbs and I ended up with three bread trays of gefilte fish! My grandmother always used to say I cook like I’m cooking for an army. LOL Well, I just wanted to use up all the breadcrumbs so yes, I made enough gefilte fish for an army. Looking at the three bread pans filled to the brim I exclaimed, “It’s the miracle of the fishes and the loaves for the feeding of the 5000!” LOL

I laughed, but I realized the symbolic meaning behind gefilte fish being on nearly every Ashkenazi Sabbath table or holiday table. It truly is a food that symbolizes the miracle of making a just a couple fish and few fishes multiply to be able to feed many people. Now, there may not be many Jewish people who will tell you this story, but if Christians murdered your family and your people for the last 2000 years would you be willing to share your faith in Yeshua (aka Jesus)?

Other symbolism for eating fish on the Sabbath goes back to when Yaakov (Jacob) blessed the son’s of Yosef (Joseph) in Egypt that their offspring would multiply like fishes. This is the version you will get in reply by many Jews as for them to explain the difference between Yeshua the Jewish Rabbi/Messiah and the Greco-Roman Jesus who is an anti-Christ by comparison is not an easy subject to discuss. As you see, it’s taken me quite a bit of typing just to frame up the story here.

There is no place in the Torah that describes our modern Sabbath traditions. Judaism has many traditions that have formed and evolved over time. The blessing of the wine, the blessing and breaking of the bread at every Sabbath table are others that some will say were born from the tradition of the 1st century Jews that believed Yeshua to be the promised Messiah that would be killed, Messiah son of Yosef (Joseph).

I thought I would share that with you today.

My Pandora radio station just played “Goodbye Girl” and “Right Here Waiting”, and, of course, those are songs that have haunted me over the years. I want to hold onto the hope that we can be reunited after these years of separation. Just like when our school year ended at Barrett Middle School and we were reunited, reminisced, and fell in love, it is my hope that there will come a day just like those many years ago that you will again make contact with me and we can go sit on that front porch swing once again and catch up on old times, and pick up the thread that was dropped. We were always so happy. I know I may have been a bit of stinker over the years and said somethings that expressed my deep frustration of living my life without the girl I never stopped loving, but I hope you can be a forgiving person and one day our love story will continue after the mistake you made that caused both our lives to suffer a lot of needless heartache. Love breeds heartache however and there’s no escaping it. It’s okay. I love you, Phyllis, and I miss you more than words can say. You were always so happy around me. I remember those bright eyes that would sparkle and I hope to see them again.

You have such a good memory, Phyllis. I was reviewing one of your letters to me and you were remembering the clothes I was wearing one day when I came to see you. You described blue sneakers, beige corduroy’s, and a tan shirt. How do you have such a photographic memory of us?

I’ll close for now. You should text me on my phone. Zina has my phone number

8 May 2022

Went grocery shopping today at the Walmart around noon and it seemed too busy for a Mother’s Day. Where were these peoples mothers? Back when my grandmother was living I’d always go see her on Mother’s Day and if the weather was good we’d go down to the lake to fish.

I was thinking of you today, Phyllis, and wondering how Mother’s Day is for you since you never got to become a mother. I know you think of your mom and miss her. I miss her too. She was fun. She used to make me laugh with her good sense of humor.

I’ve been planning on building a garden entrance arbor with a door on it for a while, but it’s been slow planning not being inspired enough, but this morning I was feeling a bit more inspired because the Asiatic lilies, the daylilies, and a red amaryllis were all in bloom. That’s the front of the house. At the back of the house I have blackberries still in bloom. In persian lime and key lime trees bloomed and I’ll have a nice little harvest this year. The key limes I grew from seed and the trees are four years old now, I think. The persian lime I purchased from Lowes and it’s about three feet tall.

18 May 2022

Ever since February 24 when the reincarnation of Adolph Hitler (Putin) officially invaded Ukraine I have been in distress. After World War 2 everyone said, “Never Again”, but here we are watching another evil dictator invade another country and murder it’s people so he can take the country and it’s resources for himself. I know I’ve mentioned before if I were a younger man I would have gone to Ukraine to help them defend their people and country. Instead I send money for what little it helps. I feel like I’m doing something to help them. I wish I could do more. What I wish most of all is that this was not happening. What prevents our species from living in love and in peace with each other? It’s a very sad situation. Can you imagine having your own child murdered in front of your eyes and having to bury him yourself in your own yard? This is what many Ukrainian’s have had to do. They’ve had to bury many of their own family members and neighbors in their yards because Putin has given the order to his people to murder the Ukrainians so he can take their country from them.

Why worry about it? Why concern myself with it? I’m living the good life in a gated community in California. I live in luxury and want for nothing. Why should I make myself emotionally upset because of other peoples problems? These are questions I could ask myself, but I don’t because I don’t have that kind of heart in me. Yes, being emotionally distressed about this situation and others is hard on me, but I try to go on as best I can telling myself I’m doing something good and that should make me feel not so sad and not so distressed. Everyday, you have to have a positive attitude that you are doing what you can to make the world a better place and try to feel joy in that. If you don’t you’ll go crazy.

I was thinking this morning while watering my garden. Right now Russians have been programed with evil propaganda and are murdering innocent people to take their land. Then I thought of the southern border of our country where thousands are streaming in nearly all unchecked.

The invasion of Ukraine didn’t begin on February 24th. It began long ago when Putin first took office. He had a plan from the beginning take back what was lost when the U.S.S.R was dissolved. So over the years he planted Russians inside of the Ukraine. He began populating certain areas of Ukraine with people who think like he does and eventually these imports along with leftover residents from the U.S.S.R became separatists trying to break the Ukraine up. Look what Putin did in Chechnya. Now, he’s doing it to the entire country. Now, lets compare this to what is going on in America.

During the presidency of Abraham Lincoln the United States went to war with Mexico because we wanted California, Arizona, New Mexico, Texas, and Colorado for our country. So we fought the Mexicans and took their land. The Mexican people have never forgotten this invasion and the murder of their people for land. Today, millions of illegal immigrants have flooded into America. They say they are coming looking for a better life. This is not really true.

When I lived in Hollywood for 7 years I had Mexican neighbors. I lived in an apartment building where my balcony was right next to theirs. With the perfect year round weather in LA many people would have their windows open almost all year. I often would hear my Mexican neighbors talking. What they were not aware of is that even quiet conversations were easily heard due to the acoustics of tiled floors and the stucco walls. It was almost as if whispers were heard like shouting in my ears. On several occasions I would listen to then talking and sometimes ranting about the Mexican takeover of the United States.

It will not be in my lifetime, but it is coming. In much of America the Mexican population used to be small to nearly nonexistent, but today there are enough of them that if Mexico wanted it could not only take back what land Abraham Lincoln took from them, but take the whole of the United States. I’m just saying that this is something in the works.

There is no argument that the White man has seen himself as superior to all other people on this planet. It’s understandable. Pitiful human beings have to play this game of superiority over one another. The human species, for the most part is a failed experiment. There will always be a small minority of loving and compassionate humans, but humanity for the most part has such an inclination towards evil behavior that they are simply unredeemable. It’s sad to say, but true. I’ve tried to live my own life being kind and caring to all, but evil people come along with a desire to disrupt the peace and I’ve had to combat fire with fire, as the saying goes. It’s nothing I can be proud of, but what I can be proud of is that I was never the aggressor and all I ever did was in self defense.

I wish this world didn’t have to be this way. I love Mexican people. I know the heart of the Mexican people. I’ve lived among them and know them to be some of the most kind, loving, and humble people on earth. The same can be said for many Russian people, but all it takes is a few to spread hatred, propaganda, and the seeds of revenge.

The rabbi’s of Judaism all say that the due date for Messiah to appear expires in late 2026, early 2027. We await Messiah son of David to appear and with the Creator’s power and authority he will reign over mankind and all this evil will come to and end. So, we cling to hope while at the same time fearing Messiah may not come and we could all be forced to endure more evil.

I just want to live out in the country on a little farm and grow my own food and one day be buried in my own garden and have a tree planted on top of me.